Love: Mistery or Misery?

Paulo Coelho once wrote:

"Suffering occurs when we want other people to love us
in the way that we imagine to be loved,
and not in the that love shoul manifest itself - free and untrammeled,
guiding us with its force and driving us on."

For me, Love is like ordering a Dim-Sum set at your favorite Asian food restaurant.

Sometimes you get one [or maybe more] of the items that you don't like, but you just have to accept it because it's already included in that Dim-Sum set.

But we can always find our reason no to eat the items that we don't like in that Dim-Sum set.
But in case of love?
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